We can believe almost anything could or will happen to us. Plus, we can imagine that we are better or worse off than we actually are adding all manner of people for or against us and what they ‘are doing’, ‘or thinking’ and ‘up to’ into our mental mix. Meaning we get all mixed up as a result.
Now you would think that we could just flip to using it as much to dream a little as concern a lot. You know, seeing everything working the odd time, and some days viewing less problems and more happier happenings ahead. Well, that makes sense, but us humans don’t act that way.
We tend to focus on one side over the other. Generally we envision either great or not so great as our chief imagining activity. Rarely do many people hip hop between them.
We are either an optimistic sort, or a true pessimistic thinker.
And guess which one most of us fall under?
Worth our weight in worry.
There’s a famous phrase we say when we see people who clearly have heavy stuff going round their head.
‘They have a weight on their mind’.
This means their circumstances are pulling them down mentally. Their mood has become low, their mindset is troubled, and their imagination can’t see many positives. They are in a mental slump.
Instead of being someone worth their weight in gold, they are a person with worry taking the shine off everything. In fact, it’s a common daily experience for large chunks of the world. Minds turned to worry rather than any other point of view or projected outcome.
In the UK 1 in 9 adults worry or stress over their lives every day. For the USA at least a whopping 47% experience ongoing worry on a permanent basis. It gets an even scarier statistic when you look at worldwide figures. The World Health Organisation reported four years ago that globally 359 million people experienced worry based anxiety symptoms each day. At that time that is a huge 4.4% of the world’s population.
And those are just the reported figures. Numbers wise the hole goes far deeper.
Our minds are set to worry.
The true cost of worry.
These statistics are costly.
Well, financially costly if you watch or listen to the media which is preoccupied with money and figures all the time. Less so about human lives where the true cost of this mental malaise hits hard and home. Making it difficult at home and life for everyday good people trying to do their best to live and raise families.
Worry affects a person individually but also, just like a virus, spreads to touch those around them. The very air becomes nervous and full of angst. People in regular contact with this worrier start to develop an anxious edge themselves. A kind of mental telepathy has taken place and infecting others. From families to work colleagues, sports team mates to business contacts, worry is working it’s way through people…all from one person.
The person who is the source of the worry doesn’t get off scot free. They internalise the negative sensation feeling. Their body becomes the victim. Stress, headaches, poor sleep, bad concentration, erratic decision making, skin complaints, heart issues and various other medical conditions stem from worry.
Which brings me to my main point.
Why worry when you can wonder?
Worry has a more magnificent counterpart.
Wonder.
Wonder is to see the incredible. It’s like witnessing magic come true. The real ‘Wow Factor’ but in the mind. Imagination that feels good. A full colour vision in front of your eyes (but mentally). It is the mind at its most alive and aware of everything that can be.
As I said it’s the opposite to worry which does the very same in reverse. That is the mind at its most fearful and despondent seeing only all tragedies and failures that could befall a person. Wonder invites sunshine and smiles and yellow brick roads.
There are two choices of the mind – to worry (and effectively begin dying inside) or wonder (and actually commence thriving everywhere). Wonder takes nothing to start, it costs nothing, it requires no-one else to be involved, and it’s permanently available.
Plus it has HUGE benefits. Take the list above of health problems caused by worry and flip them. That’s wonder at work. Feel good, look good, think good. Hey, it’s all good.
Wonder works…er, wonderfully (sorry, not sorry!).
What to Wonder?
Wonder is a word we tend to use in only one manner.
When we’re confused a little. We wonder what just happened or why someone said what they said. But true wonder is to open our eyes, and most tellingly, our minds to all that’s good, great, and awesome about life and being alive.
We worry about what the day will bring when we can wonder (imagine and see) on positive surprises happening to us.
We worry about the work we have to do while instead we could wonder about the work or life or role we would adore.
And we worry about our family or relationship all the time but we could wonder about the love, and pleasure, and happiness they bring and plan in our head how to make the most of it more.
Wonder is always offered in the sense that the mind only needs to be directed to see, feel, and move towards it. From the wonders of the natural world to the amazing changing seasons, to the wonder that in this modern world all the tools are easily at hand to change our own lives completely. We can study, practice, learn, connect, get advice, get information, and get started in some new way in super quick time.
We don’t have to worry when we can wonder at all that can be achieved if we put our minds to it.
Excite your life.
It’s time to replace anxiety with excitement.
Cut the Netflix, TV sports, and scrolling on the phone and watch tutorials on YouTube, join a sports club to connect to others, or research a keen interest or develop a personal skill. Don’t kill your mind, galvanise it! Give it something to get it’s visionary teeth into.
Wonder is everywhere. It only requires us to switch it on. If we do we can replace worry with something that our minds can actually get fired up about. They will be animated, enthusiastic, in full 3D thinking, and pop us full of endorphin filled excitement.
You gotta wonder what that would be like??
Make your worry days over and let your wonder years begin.
References –
Ciphr.com – One in nine UK adults feel stressed every day survey.
There is a phrase that says, ‘Never say anything in jest’.
The view is that whatever you say, your mind is listening. And like a young child, will believe it to be true.
But, forget the words you say for a minute. What about the thoughts and beliefs you have? Do they have the same effect?
Can what you believe trick the mind?
The short and almost scary answer to that is…..100% YES!
In fact, often not only do we make our mind believe something, we actually predict the future with it.
Horror Scopes.
They say it’s all written in our stars.
That our horoscopes point the way to what our future will be like. Well, whether you are an Aries or a Virgo, or even a non-believer, it’s your mind that is the real prophet predicting how life will turn out.
We have many a conversation where we utter ‘throw away’ comments. We’ve all done it. Something along the lines of…
‘Oh, I’ll never have any money’, or
‘I’m always unlucky, things always go wrong for me’, and,
‘I’m so plain, I never seem to attract a partner’.
Recognise any of these? Or similar, like your own versions?
On the surface we consider them blaise statements. Not so. We are merely voicing our true beliefs that we will never have good finances, good luck, and a good looking husband or wife. Not because of some personal limitation, but due to our sheer belief that this will be how things turn out. We are writing the book of our life with our mind. And making it far from a heroic tale.
Forget your horoscopes, the scope of our life becomes a horror show because we directed our mind to make it that way.
We are less psychic and more prophetic in our head.
Predicted and Expected.
Take any one of those belief comments above.
You told it to a friend in the pub or a work colleague on a coffee break. And there you are magically 5 years later and it’s turned out precisely as you predicted…..and expected mentally.
Your inner view influenced your behaviour making you obey in how you acted.
You never had money because you kept playing small in a low paid job – ‘Well, why change when you won’t get far financially anyway?’
You never got the breaks in life so nothing much good happened – ‘Never believed in good luck for me so only focused on the usual rubbish I get’.
Still single on your own year after year – ‘Girls/guys just don’t see anything in me, so I left them alone and stopped bothering them’.
It’s typical self-fulfilling prophecy in living action. Driven and ruled by lesser beliefs, you acted them out for real and got, well, what you thought you would. Along the way there were umpteen opportunities for more wealth, chances to better yourself, and various potential partners who came your way. But, you passed them by because your personal prophecy told you to do so.
You could never got passed what you predicted and then expected. In short, you got what you convinced yourself you would get before you even started. Like a runner who never believed he could win a medal or a singer to write a popular song, you were beaten in your mind without ever having to do anything or go anywhere.
And that means one MASSIVE ground shaking truth for all of us.
Life is Self-fulfilling.
Life isn’t directed by the Gods. It’s designed by the mind.
What we allow ourselves to believe we allow ourselves to experience. Life 101.
The mind sets reality. If it believes life is great and full of opportunity we will bounce out of bed looking for it. On the other hand, if it believes it’s a dangerous and selfish world, we will stay closer to home and not look to connect much beyond those four walls.
And so it is that life becomes the self-fulfilling prophecy. What your mind thinks about yourself and what that will result in, is how you will live. So what has tended to appear in your world is invariably because your mind has placed you in such situations that it’s likely to occur. Scenarios that perfectly reflect your mentality. You got what you got because you thought that’s what you would get.
Whether it is the love of your life or loneliness through life.
Bundles of luck out of the blue all the time, or no luck at all time after time.
Financially comfortable or financially strapped.
Yes, life indeed is a mirror….a mirror of the mind.
Life is the story we tell ourselves.
We are the main character but the mind is the author who writes the story. So let me finish by asking you this to establish your prophecy. If your life was a story, book, or film, would it be a comedy, a tragedy, a get rich from nothing success, a romance or a broken dreams weepie?
You need to know because you want that pen back to start rewriting your future and forget your history.
And you can because you are a visionary, seer, and forecaster all in one. In one place that is.
Yes, the greatest prophet ever known to humanity, is our own minds.
Difficulty is part of life for all of us at some time or other.
But, there are some who have experienced extreme difficulty and come back from it to succeed in life.
Armed with the right mindset and beliefs, they turned a seeming disaster into destiny.
So, if you are in a hole and struggling, take heart from these stories that show that your mind can lead you to a much brighter future.
Even if it all starts out the very opposite.
A Car Crash Life.
A young man with his whole future ahead of him.
A young footballer playing for one of the biggest and most famous clubs in history.
He had been representing Real Madrid in their junior reserve team as a goalkeeper and showed huge promise. On the way home one night in 1962 the car he was driving crashed leaving him paralysed from the waist down and severe injuries to the other passengers. His whole life seemed over.
Severely depressed he lay in bed day after day until a nurse brought him a guitar to give him something to focus on and add strength and dexterity to his hands. This was the start of his revival. He developed a real love for music and it also galvanised his body. He felt sensations in his lower limbs when he played and soon his toes moved. In his mind he believed he could survive and two other important beliefs – he would walk again and he would be a singer. Both he stayed totally disciplined at achieving.
In 1968 he swept the board as an unknown singer at the Benidorm summer song festival. That victory lead him to being signed to his first ever recording contract. His career took off. He went on to win world acclaim including World Music Awards and 2 Grammy’s and is the best selling Latino artist of all time and has sold 300 million records in 14 languages.
He is the same man who lay broken in his hospital bed. Broken in mind too until that mind changed.
You are a single parent who has just lost their mother who dies aged 45.
You have fled domestic violence with only your young daughter and not much else. Owning nothing you are forced onto benefits but live a meagre existence in a cold flat. You are almost destitute and only survive thanks to spending your days at a local cafe run by a relative. As you later said in those days your were ‘as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless’.
Your future looks bleak. Your prospects are very low and you sink into depression. Even suicide passes through your mind.
However you had one idea. A silly story really but you’ve had it in the back of your mind for a few years. With little else in your life you dedicate time daily in the cafe to turning your idea into some kind of manuscript. The only thing you have left is this. But, your violent ex-partner finds you and tries to get back together. You must involve the courts and you need therapy to keep it together.
You keep writing. The book takes 2 years. Hope still remains.
That hope is challenged. Publisher after publisher turns it down. Finally another two years later one offers you a tiny £1500 advance which you accept with little else on the table.
The book was published and becomes a sensation and bidding soon follows for the future books with $100,000 offered for the US rights alone.
You have turned your vision for the character and his adventures into the literary success of the modern generation.
Her pen was a mighty as her mind and wrote herself into destiny.
Mindset resets life.
These true stories typify the change of mindset and the wholesale effects this originates.
Both the pen and the plectrum turned seeming disaster into a dramatic destiny. But, behind both, was the mind. Renewed. Rekindled. And reinvigorated even in the pits of despair.
In all of our lives are ongoing ups and downs. Hassles here, problems there, sometimes bright spots. Sunshine and rain. But, the key is not to let that undermine thinking. When we are on the up, life is easy to mentally process. When we are on a down slope however, it’s easy to keep going down with it mindwise.
Julio and JK took the positives out of their harsh realities. They looked for something better to get involved in and follow. To redirect the mind and put its purpose and focus on the new skill or goal not the current pain and restriction.
We can all take a leaf out of that book. The mind can go one of two ways always. We get to choose which way it goes.
As Shakespeare famously wrote in Hamlet, ‘There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so’.
I think we should decide to use our mind to get the best out of everything
And turn grime into gold, and difficulty into destiny!
References – Edition.cnn.com – Julio Iglesias; near death experience made him a singer.
Surinenglish.com – July, a month of success for Julio Iglesias.
Wikipedia – Julio Iglesias.
Biography.com – J.K. Rowling’s incredible rags to riches story.
Photo attribution – Free to use under Pixabay Content License by Blogcube and Vika_Glitter.
Many people want to be a success.A big success in some form.
But, underneath if they do, lies a mental flaw that has affected countless top achievers and millions of the rest of us.
Imposter Syndrome.
You may not have heard of the term, but chances are you may experience it a number of times in your life.
Can you guess who this is?
Born in the mid 1950’s he made his first acting appearance in a low budget horror film before landing a starring role in a TV movie in 1982. From there his stock rose. Next came one of the lead roles in an ABC series plus other TV guest appearances. His first Hollywood film made $69m at the box office and from there he went from one stellar hit to another. He is ranked the 4th highest all time box office star grossing over $9.96BILLION worldwide. He has won two Oscars, seven Emmy awards, and four Golden Globes plus lifetime achievement awards.
But he said of himself, ‘ No matter what we’ve done, there comes a point where you think, ‘How did I get here? When are they going to discover that I am, in fact, a fraud and take everything away from me?‘.
Despite all that mega success and super acting recognition, he still feels an imposter in Hollywood.
Imposter Syndrome affect us all from a teacher to a tycoon.
Imposters everywhere.
Imposter Syndrome covers every group, race, income level, background and, well, everything.
Almost anyone can experience this mindset malaise. Some other examples are very surprising.
Would you have thought that the following have experienced Imposter Syndrome?
David Bowie, Serena Williams, Lady Gaga, Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, and Michelle Obama.
It’s a helluva list but it gets more amazing when you add those from recent history too.
Legendary British comedian/magician Tommy Cooper, award winning and multi million selling author Maya Angelou, and even….wait for it….Albert Einstein even declared, ‘I am compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler’, as he didn’t feel worthy of the accolades his work attracted.
In the great and good there is a long line now, and in the past, of famous performers who felt a fake and somehow worth less than what they have achieved. Whether you win an Oscar or Nobel Prize, they can feel exactly the same as you when you get promoted to managing a marketing team or captain of the golf club that you simply don’t deserve it.
There are imposters everywhere in every walk of life not just on the red carpet.
Imposters are among all of us. In fact most of us have been one at some point. Think of the time you felt you didn’t fit in because the people, the place, the role, or all of them together, were better than you. That feeling is Imposter Syndrome.
So what is Imposter Syndrome?
It is a psychological sense of inadequacy where, despite external evidence to support success and achievement, internally the sufferer downplays any accomplishments as luck or someone better wasn’t available and/or that they are not worthy of the result. Feeling a fraud or not the level of those they are around nor the stature of such people is common.
This starts to manifest as individuals begin to develop themselves. Their slight lack of self confidence turns inwards even more as progress is made especially if it is rather pronounced or made in a fairly short time. They ‘just don’t get what people see in me or what I have done’, is a common phrase they will utter to themselves.
From housewives to heroes, CEO’s to career ladder ‘would be’s’, Imposter Syndrome is an active mental feeling affecting almost anyone. When things start to go good, the Imposter strikes to remind that it’s not justified. I just won’t have it no matter what the proof, is the mental view.
We are an Imposter in a better world.
How to feel like we fit in.
Imposter Syndrome tells you lies about yourself.
So you have to put it straight. There is no pill to take. You have to make the Imposter feel like he or she isn’t real. It’s a made up projection. You have to direct your mindset to a greater perspective, a bit like explaining to a child that the monster in their story only exists in a book. Enlist your own PR – Proper Response
There are a number of approaches that will help restore self awareness and self acceptance such as these.
Look for fact over fiction, or substance rather than conjecture. Recognise that if you have won a major prize or contract it can only be done on merit.
Admit to others and especially your peers that you feel an Imposter (as Tom Hanks did). You may find that people in that field had the very same feeling once.
Identify your Imposter fraud feelings. Maybe you are the only woman ever promoted to a senior position so you think it’s a tick box appointment. Or your friends only loved your new dress to be polite as they know you can’t afford them often. See that fake belief and face it down.
Create a new conversation. It’s all going on in your head. Those thoughts about yourself like a voice telling you how you don’t fit. Grab that voice back and turn it round. Clearly state, and keep stating, that you 100% earned what you have got and you did it by being yourself.
There are some others to also use such as having positive self talk, seeing yourself in your mind’s eye actually congratulating yourself at what you have achieved, and add rewards for each good outcome to reinforce it as a ‘well done me’ belief.
Many Imposters have left the building with these.
Imposter be gone and stay gone.
Imposters never get away with it.
They always get found out in the end. Sooner or later they betray themselves. So if you have started to question whether you actually do deserve the recognition or advancement you are experiencing, then superb, you are outting the Imposter. You are pointing out the faker in your thinking, opinion, and limiting beliefs.
Follow these tips above and show them the door and never let them back in. They were never invited to your party in the first place, they just barged there way in. Say bye bye to bad views and turn that music up.
Time to celebrate you and all that you do!
References –
Wikipedia – Tom Hanks.
Casting Frontier – 9 actors who struggled with Imposter Syndrome.
Entrepeneur.com – 12 Leaders, Entrepreneurs, and Celebrities who have struggled with Imposter Syndrome.
Businessinsider.com – celebrities who talked about having Imposter Syndrome.
Assets.henley.ac.uk – WHITEPAPER was Albert Einstein an Imposter.
ImpostorSyndrome.com – how to overcome Imposter Syndrome.
There are some infamous lines spoken in movie history.
‘After all tomorrow’s just another day’, from Gone With the Wind.
Michael Caine’s awesome’, You’re only supposed to blow the bloody doors off’, from The Italian Job.
And my all time personal favourite from Julia Roberts in Notting Hill, ‘I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her’.
But one of the greatest ones ever quoted is by Marlon Brando, the classic,
‘I coulda had class‘, he said, ‘I coulda been a contender. I could’ve been someone’, from On The Waterfront.
The last line captures perfectly the modern mindset belief adopted by vast swathes of the population. Brando’s words were from a Hollywood film’s low life character reflecting on becoming a someone in the world and rising above his meagre status. No longer just a citizen, more a star, more recognised by others. In today’s world art has become life as people all over the world use social media to be a somebody as if they are in some TV show or popular film.
Their every activity is governed towards increasing their profile and being seen. It’s like a disease. In fact, it’s got a name.
The Somebody Syndrome.
Nobodies everywhere.
Towards the end of last Century we were all nobodies. There were nobodies everywhere.
Now when I mean nobodies, I mean non-celebrity, non notable personas to the world. The few true stars, leaders, sports legends, and mega business moguls were few and stood out. If there was a tree in their field, they shone out at the very top.
The rest of us were working folks known only to others in our community, or organisation, or perhaps in some way locally or nationally but not at any elite level where anyone, anywhere would know exactly who we are if we walked down the street.
People went about their business doing what they had to do. Work, shopping, family duties, enjoying some hobbies, the odd day trip here, plus a short Summer vacation there. No desire to tell the world about themselves and what they did day after day. Their focus was their life around them and the people that mattered. As it has been in various guises for hundreds of years.
Then social media arrived. And the nobodies started to want to become somebodies.
It started off as fun. Facebook was the true first big thing. And we all wanted to be involved. In 2006 Facebook opened up to the general public having previously been campus based only with 250,000 student members to begin with. Within a year of this it had 20 million daily users. Today that has soared to the heights of 3.07Billion.
It’s main feature was to share thoughts, images and updates of our ordinary lives, our communities, our activities. Sharing and connecting with others who did the same. It was fresh, fun, novel, exciting, and unusual all rolled into one.
And we got hooked!!
Facehooked.
When it began Facebook seemed to answer an innocuous human function.
A place to go to connect and learn, see what’s out there, see others. See what the world is doing. But….the buzz is addictive. Firmly hooked by the ability to be ‘liked’ and praised and given attention by people we didn’t even know, not just from our friends, we were drawn in. People anywhere and everywhere wanting to hook up with little old us. Wow, the feeling was sooo good.
In our humdrum lives getting a thumbs up from a stranger or nice looking person sure lifted our mood and boosted our self confidence. Innocent pick me ups, good old natured positive recognition which we rarely got in our everyday lives, became a sense of escapism. Add to that gathering a group of ‘friends’ who followed our profile and well, hell, this is the place to be.
These people support me. These people like me. All of these people are keen to keep doing that even when I post a picture of my garden or me in my outfit for a Friday night out. And their comments prove I’m pretty popular after all. I’m going to keep doing this and do it a bit more often.
The Somebody has been born.
Oh No FOMO.
Word had clearly spread. Facebook is the hottest spot in virtual town.
And we headed there in our droves participating in the exact same behaviour as above. We didn’t want to be out, we wanted to be part of the in crowd. So we copied them. After all that’s what humans do. We are a tribe, a race of people, so we do what the group does. Which is hop onto Facebook and share every photo we have got (usually of the self) of almost anything.
FOMO came to life. FOMO aka Fear of Missing Out said you gotta join in or you are a nobody. Which effectively said to our subconscious, that when you are posting and sharing (which blew right out of the water when we could post videos too!), you are a somebody. Roll on enough years and now it’s an ingrained behaviour.
A belief system has taken root in our emotional and mental base.
Cue the drift into a sense of self importance. Checking out other people’s profiles to prove to our inflating ego that we have more followers, likes, comments than they do or more of the cool people coming our way.
And the greatest shock of all with this? This trait surfaced in the young twenty somethings first, the big social guys and girls, who were naturally always out and about. Then it spread. Soon the thirty and forty year olds came to the party and nowadays ever age group is mega active.
Oneupmanship surged. Every time we went somewhere – the local pub, to walk the dog, to buy a new woolly hat; it needed a FB post. We had to stay relevant, stay ahead, stay noticed. We craved the likes, we needed the recognition and respect we felt inside. Keeping that supply going became key. So we took day trips to share online. Concerts and sporting occasions were posted en masse. Traveling to unusual places were featured. Anything to keep the attention, keep the numbers up, and be that somebody we believed we were.
We became so many somebody’s.
Online all the time.
We have developed Somebody Syndrome.
The acute, and often desperate, want to be visible and seen. Oh be seen, yes, but not as just an ordinary Joe or Jane. Someone special, attractive (yes all those phone filters!!), successful, admired, and followed. We have fast progressed from seeing ourselves as a somebody, to bordering on being a star.
Somebody morphs into Celebrity.
We are going almost any place to take a picture or share a video or buy a product (from killer shoes to fast cars) to act like celebs….in our head. The completely fake and false image we have grown up around ourselves is out of control. Millions and millions of people all seeing themselves as some next big thing in some way. Posing like models or shooting a vid ‘at home’ as if they were a world renowned reality personality.
And the damage is huge. Mental health issues due to social media are hitting scary numbers. For instance – did you know 210 million people worldwide are addicted to social media? People actually develop palpitations if they can’t access social media feeds! And worse. Online they meet those who feel inadequate and insecure, people who abuse, criticise, threaten, and belittle others causing severe anxiety and depression as a result.
If it’s not our ego that suffers from overhype, it’s our fragile emotions and identity that are severely holed so we’re sinking.
Our heads have become too big, and our hearts have become too broken.
Be a real somebody.
There really is only one Taylor Swift.
Or Ed Sheeran. Or Steve Mc Queen. And only one Elvis Presley, Julia Roberts, Kim Kardashian et al. Truth is we are killing ourselves at trying to be another version of a well known man/woman/couple instead of the real version of who actually are.
Social media has changed us. We want to be the popular one, the somebody people seek out. Every day we feed that mentality monster by posting and tweeting and shooting videos to Instagram, TikTok, and all other sites we have a presence on. But, we’re missing one HUGE truth.
We were born to be who we are. A pure one off. A unique individual with their own identity. The real living breathing somebody,
Someone meant to be the best interior designer, sports coach, hairdresser, meteorologist, and thousands of other possible roles that make us make our mark. Roles that reflect our true selves in the world around us. Contributions that we will be truly remembered for and not some viral video that will be forgotten in weeks. We have special skills and talents in abundance. Ones we are ignoring chasing the online applause.
You see we already ARE influencers. By being ourselves in our own clothes, and own skin, and own ways. We don’t need some Apple phone image to enhance that nor a few likes that will be here today but gone in a few years.
We are all a somebody. A normal, wonderful somebody. Picture thatin your mind.
Anyone of a certain age was brought up on the 3 R’s of education.
The famous (though clearly incorrectly referenced…go figure!!) R’s – Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic.
These were defined as the basic three foundations of learning. They have been the staple educational cornerstone in many countries for umpteen decades.
But, did you know they have a thinking equivalent?
And not just any thinking. The highest and the best. The elite level thinking.
If you didn’t know, worry not. In this post I’m going to reveal them to you so you can start developing them too.
Let us begin the great mindset lesson. Three is the magic number to learn. Three elite ways to use thinking to bring out the very best.
One, two, three….let’s go!
1. Reasoning.
Even crazy ideas aren’t that mad.
This is the foundation of pinnacle thinking. All ideas conceived, no matter how unlikely or fantastical, are treated to this triple approach. And the initial entry point mentally is where any concept, any possibility, is first processed by the mind. It is where it is fairly considered and evaluated.
It experiences reasoning.
Reasoning is the sensible perspective applied by the mind. Whether the idea is whacky or wonderful, reasoning is activated to ensure solid appraisal. Some years ago on the business investment programme Dragon’s Den on BBC TV, an inventor sought funds from established business gurus for cardboard garden furniture. It didn’t happen.
This is because of every pitfall the creator had not thought through about the product. It seemed like a good idea. It was novel. The cost was low. It was environmentally friendly. And not to mention, it was innovative. In their mind.
No reasoning had been employed. You could probably guess half of the problems the Dragons identified. But, if you get carried away with your ‘big bright new thing’ exciting your head (and future pockets), you will never see sense.
This is also relevant with bonkers ideas. At first they seem insane without a cat in hell’s chance of making it. Have a think. Switch on reasoning. See the issue it could be solving. Perhaps the concept only requires a tweak to fit into another field. It could just be the gap in a market no-one else ever noted. Nothing is dead until reason says so.
Reasoning is where an open mind meets a sensible brain.
2. Reflection.
Ever thought about something you first weren’t sure about, then changed your mind?
It’s the classic ‘let it sink in’. This is what occurs when we receive information that’s far and above our norm. Big bad news or big brilliant news. The mind asks for a time out and wants to do some inner homework before it offers its opinion.
That downtime is when the mind slips into reflective mode. It ponders and considers the info, idea, proposal, seriousness, etc. A kind of top to bottom mental review to capture what you really feel/believe/understand.
We do that on less magnificent options – what will happen if we go for promotion or change the car. Large enough a decision for us, but not earth shattering.
Elite level minds reflect as standard but elevate the scenario. They will practise reflection over opening a brand new business, how to fit in ultra marathon training while working a 45 hour week as an analyst, and financial planning for the coming five years if they were to move their savings into short term office space rental.
Sure it’s more mega stuff, but the principal remains sturdy.
Reflection is correction, connection, or condemning a possibility by deeper, calmer contemplation about what it is and what it can mean.
3. Responding.
However you start, you have to finish.
And at the end of any idea or concept, after all thinking is done, has to be a decision. Before you go for it or pull it, you have to land on one mental response that decides one way or the other.
Elite thinkers are highly adept at quality responses.
They reason that the idea is sound. That is followed up with reflecting on how it could look, develop, who it could be for, where to pitch it etc. Those two completed and the mind made up, they are comfortable at the step most become paralysed in taking.
They respond – they take action. The move it forwards. Result? Progress with a capital ‘P’.
Now there is a proviso. That response could equally be they will kill the project. Maybe it’s too soon for such an endeavour. It might be too expensive to fund. Preferences and trends are changing. Various factors (they they have identified and thought through) in the groundwork is saying it won’t work on the ground.
Hey, but it may turn out a stunning 180 flip. It could be scaled up or dedicated to a certain type of person. It might begin small with a soft launch first before the explosion onto the wider stage. Relabelling it might change perceptions and so on.
Whether it’s a big thumbs up or down, rest assured elite minds will respond to the idea and the thinking they have invested, with surefooted, confident responses. No waiting, no pontificating. The iron is hot…or cold, nothing in between.
So, where does that leave you?
4. What’s the Big Idea?
You’re not reading this post for fun, right?
At the back of your mind you want to learn how big thinking is done. Because you’ve got something to get done. Asking that girl out you’ve fallen for at the office. Quitting work to be a vlogger. Wanting to tell your parents that you won’t be going into the family business. And bigger still.
Well, you now know there’s no mega secrets to mega thinking. No inner sanctum the great leaders and business moguls in history were members of with the keys to riches. You don’t have to hold your nerve. No poker face is required or working on the art of bluff.
Just these three R’s – the reasonable, rational, reflexes of the mind. They hold true whether it’s a city you are building or simply bridges with people you need to get back.
3R’s that will help you choose the right and best path…the elite one.
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